Warren Farrell on Philosophy

"Men give the same lines to different women for the same reason women wear the same perfume for different men; we all try the things that work."

"The women who were best able to grow spiritually and psychologically had married men who were the least able to grow."

"Between ages thirteen and sixteen, boys show a temporary decline in empathy on a biological level—a decline not suffered by girls."

"Being forced into early retirement can be to a man what being "given up for a younger woman" is for a woman."

"I feel awed by the mystery of being both so finite and yet so infinite, so much and so little, so conscious and yet, so coincidental."

"If your son sees being an oppressor as his future, being a failure to launch might look like progress."

"When men in relationships have more money, we say they have the power. When women in relationships have more money, we say they are being used."

"Playing with dad is like being on a roller coaster—kids are excited because they feel safe."

"Women who have the option of being economically self-sustaining will increasingly want your son to also have emotional and relationship intelligence."

"If a woman isn't being hazed, she's not being tested; therefore, she is not being trusted."

"We cannot think of dads as being nurturing if we think of men as being self-serving."

"And when boys are hurt, they hurt us—physically, psychologically, and economically."

"Technology is dad-at-home friendly. It allows the family to be more creative and role flexible than it ever has in the past without being poor in the process."

"In one decade, women had gotten more protection against offensive jokes in the workplace than men had gotten in centuries against being killed in the workplace."

"The more your son wishes to be part of the elite, the more he will abhor being pitied. Yet boys who join the elite today are often the ones who are pitied tomorrow."

"Unemployment to a man is the psychological equivalent of rape to a woman."

"In my forty-five years of forming men’s groups, I have never heard of a man who was actively involved in a men’s group being hospitalized for depression, or commit suicide."

"If female-to-female teasing and hazing does occur, as in Mean Girls, it signals that the woman being teased and hazed is on the outs, not that she’s being vetted for inclusion."

"In brief, we do more research on men in prison, men in the military, and men in general than we do on women for the same reason we do more research on rats than we do on humans."

"Traditional men make their sacrifices in significant measure in the hopes of being appreciated when they come home, and having their learning experiences integrated into their homes."

"In order to connect and nurture, it is not just helpful to be in touch with feelings, it is necessary. So men’s first job – their next evolutionary strategy – involves being in touch with their feelings."

"Preparing his son to be a football hero was Jack’s dad’s unconscious way of preparing Jack for manhood by preparing him to sacrifice his body in exchange for the social bribes of being praised and valued."

"Three-quarters of dads who were in South Carolina jails for being behind in child support payments suffer from extreme poverty. And one-eighth of all South Carolina inmates are in jail for being behind in child support payments."

"Perhaps the best reason to consider the hard sciences is that, well, one study suggests science, engineering, medicine, and dentistry graduates live longer than arts graduates . So whatever money you make you can keep a bit longer."

"Creating fatherhood means creating a major psychological shift. Both sexes find it's difficult to fully share the psychological responsibility for the other sex's traditional role -- especially when the other sex is around. – page 90."

"Fear of emotional contact with men out of fear of being a sexual suspect makes boys, ironically, even more powerless before girls. Homophobia is like telling the United States it will be a sissy nation if it doesn’t get all its oil from OPEC."

"Most women’s ideal is to not be sexual until nine conditions are met: physical attraction; respect; emotional compatibility; intelligence; singleness; success ; being asked out; being paid for; and the man risking rejection by initiating the first kiss…. Men want sex as long as only one condition is met—physical attraction."

"It is ironic that a movement that made its reputation championing the irrelevance of biological differences when those differences were to most women's disadvantage immediately returned to biological determinism when those differences were to the most women’s advantage."

"By the 1970s, the American woman was being called ‘liberated’ or ‘superwoman’ while the American man was being called ‘baby killer’ if he fought in Vietnam, ‘traitor’ if he protested, or ‘apathetic’ if he did neither. Even men who came home paraplegics were literally spit on."

"The corporate Catch-22: Don't be flexible, lose good women; be flexible, lose good women... A company listening to women's desires for fewer promotions, giving fewer promotions to women, and then being sued for giving fewer promotions to women. Yiddish has a word for this: chutzpah."