bell hooks

"Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment...'dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide …"

"Often men who have been emotionally neglected and abused as children by dominating mothers bond with assertive women, only to have their childhood feelings of being engulfed surface. While they could …"

"Love is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust."

"Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape."

"To return to love, to get the love we always wanted but never had, to have the love we want but are not prepared to give, we seek romantic relationships. We believe these relationships, more than any …"

"Individuals who want to believe that there is no fulfillment in love, that true love does not exist, cling to these assumptions because this despair is actually easier to face than the reality that lo…"

"All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget. In actuality, when we love rightly we know that the healthy, lovi…"

"The practice of love offers no place of safety. We risk loss, hurt, pain. We risk being acted upon by forces outside our control."